Last week I found a small bag of white powder in hubby's pocket. TT Hubby & he sd it was speed not cocaine. Bought from somone at work. He sd he buys once a month & uses about twice a month. He has been using for a year. He made no offer to stop. Honestly if I wouldn't have found it I never would have known. I'm sorry I did. I don't know what to do. Should I do anything?
2014-12-05 05:06:42
Speed is cocaine or meth either of which is dangerous to both his health and your relationship. I always feel at a loss when I get question like these because just like you in this situation I feel helpless. There is not much you nor I can do to help someone who is not willing to be helped. Your love will NOT save her. You have to look inside yourself and see if you are willing to stay in this relationship the way it is now not the way you think it may be someday. If you are not get out and tell her why. People get hooked on drugs for many different reasons - childhood trauma depression anxiety. But there are always better ways to deal with those issues. Drugs are always an escape and an excuse. I wish you all the luck in the world. You will need emotion strength to get through whatever it is ahead of you. Tell your husband that you are there for him but he needs to work out his issues or they will catch up with him. He may lose job after job and will find a myriad of excuses that have nothing to do with him. It is never the addict's fault ever. The drugs take over what used to be their character and the essence of their being. Ask yourself if you are still living with your husband or what the drugs made him. Impress on him that you want him but without the excuses and lies. Sometimes it takes facing a loved one telling you the truth sometime it takes losing that loved one to realize what is truly important. Good luck to you. .
2014-12-05 05:07:22
