I've posted this a few times during my pregnancy since I found out. I would just like more advice/input thanks! I found out September 1st that he was cheating on me the woman that he was talking to told me everything she showed me all the messages that he had sent her and all the messages that she had sent him the only reason why she had pursued the conversation with him was to show me what was really going on. the first time he messaged her he told her that he felt like she was trying to set him up and get him caught up and she told him that if she really wanted to tell me that she would have already done that.He took the bait and the only thing that stopped him from going to see her was that he didn't want to drink and drive. She showed me everything and we even made plans to meet up and catch him with her but I was away that weekend when all this happenedso the day that I came home I couldn't hold it in and I told him that I knew about everything. He didn't deny anything.I feel so emotionally unstable and I feel like I can't make a clear decision especially because of my hormones. I don't know what to do. I have a 3 year old she is not his. But I'm also 9 months pregnant with his child. He told the woman that he just found out that I was pregnant a month agowhen we actually knew I was pregnant right away because we were trying to get pregnant we made the decision together. I can't help but feel like every time he says something to me that should have meaning is just a lie. It's been exactly 2 months since I've found out and it still hurts like hell I wasn't too move on from this but I don't know if I want to move on with or without him. Any advice?
2014-11-06 06:54:14
My hubby got drunk on Christmas Eve of 2012. I was 3 months pregnant. He showed up on Christmas day covered in hickies :( that was almost 2 years ago and i still haven't gotten over it. My only advice is if he does it once he'll do it again. Please remember that even if you stay with him. The only reason my hubby and I are still together is because that was the FOURTH time he cheated on me. He did it over and over and over again. But I stayed which was stupid. But the day we met we fell in love instantly. And I never forgot that feeling I got when we were first introduced that's why I stayed. But I did give him an ultimatum. I sat him down and told him "tell me now what you're gonna do". I told him to walk away now that my heart was broken and it COULDNT get any worse. I asked him to walk away and he didn't. I honestly became the biggest ***** after that. "Sometimes being a ***** is all you have left" right? Sit him down and let him know that if that's what he wants you don't need him standing in the way of you and your life with your babies. That's what I did I told him I wouldn't put him on child support and he could see the baby as he pleased but that I wouldn't be in the picture anymore. And he chose not to leave. He's come a LONG way since then but it was a long road of hate and tears. And I only didn't give up because I remembered what I felt when I met him.
2014-11-06 06:55:03
