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I want to die but I worry about my daughter

My father killed himself years ago and I was half way around the world away from home and never blamed myself but now I just broke up with my wife and I just don't want to go on anymore. I worry that my adult daughter might blame herself for my choice. She know that my wife was cheating and there is no chance of fixing the marriage and I have filed for divorce based on adultery. We have been apart for a couple of months but I see myself going downhill fast. I have not been to work for the last two weeks and now I don't want to go outside because I don't want to tell another person why my wife is not with me. I did talk to a shrink last week but only felt worse after I left the office. My daughter lives in another state and it's just not doable to live closer but she wants me to move close to or even in with her. I am afraid if I follow my dad and I stop my pain what does it do to her. She does not know how my father died as I always told her it was an accident but if I can't stage the perfect accident she will know that my death was not an accident. She calls me every day and sometimes two or three times a day. I think she suspects I am tired with life and I want to quit. Funny part is I miss my wife so much and going to bed without talking or touching is the worst time of the day

2014-10-29 03:25:07

Emma

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You really need to get out some and don't let yourself be a prisoner to the house. One of the main things that is bothering you is the absence of that affection and I know how hard it can be at night. I went through the same thing a few years ago and I lost a wife and two young kids all in the same breath taking moment when I found out she was cheating on me. For me it ultimately took going to treatment. Doing this forced me to be around other people and allowed me to open up and deal with my problems in a safe environment. If this is not an option for you or you refuse to do it then I hope you have a support system in your life that you can turn to. A mentor or group or anyone that you can talk to. For now at least keep checking back here and it is a safe place for you to open up but stop thinking of hurting yourself. I did attempt it a couple of times and it didn't work I am glad. You may not be as lucky as I was.

2014-10-29 03:25:55

Sun